On The Flip Side

If you perceive something to be either ‘good’ or ‘bad’, who is it that is passing these judgments? – Its the bias of the mind. 
The mind is full of opinions and judgments based off past experience. 
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The danger with this is, whether you label something as good or bad, there is always a flip side that you are remaining blind to – something that may not be visible, immediately. 
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Have you ever suffered a situation, only to realise that it was one of the best things to ever happen to you? Initially, you judged the situation as something negative in response to the pain you felt and the opinions you formed around what you experienced at the time. But, now that we know there is always a flip side, then what damage does this bias of the mind cause?
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If we experience pain or something that doesn’t meet our expectations in life, then we automatically label this as a negative event. This lack of perspective is a hindrance to our overall well being, because every time we feel pain we are going to get bitter about it and every time we feel joy we are going to hold on to it as if its a scarce resource. 
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A way that I have learned to counter these negative judgments is by flipping the coin on any situation that I perceive as negative. I reflect back on some of the events from my past which I perceived as negative at the time, and I think about how those events actually turned out to bring a lot of growth and joy to my experience. 
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This is not an attempt to adopt a mindset that only sees positivity. That is an unrealistic goal, given that our minds are meant to pass judgement on things in order to help us survive. Rather, this is a tool to counterbalance the two opposing forces within your mind. Life is after all a construct of forces that play together to make up what we experience. 
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Counter a negative with a positive. Flip the coin and try to imagine what “good” could come from your “bad”. The light is there for you to see, you just need to open your eyes.

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